The last couple of months have been quite the ride. When the year began, I promised myself that I’d make this year  a year of change for myself emotionally, spiritually, mentally and physically more like getting out of what I’ve been accustomed to over the years and daring to be different. What I didn’t know was that it was going to be really scary, painful and above all uncomfortable. So many times I broke down, so many times I wanted to give up and said fuck it, so many times I thought I’d had enough until the last two months where I decided to LET GO AND LET GOD. I had a woosah type of moment.

You know what they say about change? That it’s painful. Oh yes! It is so painful. I’m usually not the kind of person who gives up easily despite the few breakdowns, I always keep pushing harder and harder. What I set my mind to achieve, I go hard and harm for it and in the process I’ve lost “friends” and of course lost a lot of weight. It’s so tormenting when someone I haven’t seen in a while meets me and says “Oh my gosh, body goals.”  or “ Oh my you’ve lost so much weight.” If only they knew.

I was having this conversation with my sister earlier this morning while driving to work and told her how I’d been doubting my capabilities this whole year, I was scared that I wouldn’t do shit for myself. And she told me “By the way, If you want to do something. Shut all those negative thoughts and go ahead and do it.” I mean I couldn’t agree less. How else will you realize your full potential if you don’t take that risk? How else will you grow if you don’t experience that change?

Well, I’m a huge fan of the Huffington post and every now and then I go onto their website and look for a few articles to read and I came across this article written by Amber Rose Monaco on change and I think there are a few lessons you could learn form it that will help you take that leap of faith.

You are pushed out of your comfort zone.
Life in the comfort zone is easy. You simply follow a routine and you can predict the consequences. Outside of the comfort zone, your assumptions are challenged. Your opinions, mindset, and belief system are tested. You must find new ways to articulate who you are and what you believe. The idea of doing the same thing over and over without question is discouraged. Getting out into the world and doing something new and different is a fostered approach to life.

You get to experience more.
Change is good because you have the opportunity to embrace new experiences. New perspectives are waiting for you at the doorstep. Opportunities are plentiful. When you look back on your life, all of the really amazing things are because of a new experience you had. All of those vacations you took and all of the people you have met have taught you more than you ever learned in school. These experiences now make up who you are today.

You get to find out who you really are.
When you are going through a transition, your mind expands in way that is hadn’t in the past. You find out about what you can handle and what you can’t. You learn about your limitations. You figure out what your are really made of. Learning about yourself, including what you cannot handle, helps you to figure out a better path to take in life. You are open to the possibility of learning that what you have been doing in the past isn’t suiting the future.

Makes you more flexible and adaptable.
Without a doubt, change makes you more flexible and adaptable. You learn to embrace chaos in a way that seems foreign but acceptable and achievable. Then, you are armed with more confidence as you walk into the next uncomfortable situation. You begin to thrive in new situations because you have proven to yourself that you can, not only handle change, but FLOURISH.

You have more fun.
When you are open to change, you are open to saying YES to more. You are open to more experiences and opportunities. You have the opportunity to meet more people too. When you add all of these things together, you are going to have a more robust life and you’ll have a ton of fun figuring it all out along the way — there’s no doubt about it.


I hope this inspires you to embrace change. Thanks for reading. XoXo.

What I wore:

Full outfit from Vivo Activewear

Sandals from Call It Spring

Photography by OJ

Makeup by Nzilani

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  1. Thanks for this Joy. Change is inevitable. This year I celebrated the fruits of me pushing to change though it was a painful long process(almost lost everything I had at some point) am now happier and hopeful?.

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